I don't watch Love and Hip Hop; but I have heard of the recent sex tape by a couple of the VH-1 reality show's characters. Now I know that some women have gained enormous fame from starring in leaked porn videos, but all of those women have been white. Karrin Steffans, aka Superhead, did put her stamp on the literary world with Confessions of a Video Vixen but her pornography career did not land her on the cover of Vogue magazine. The sister in Love and Hip Hop has obviously marketed her sex tape as a calculated career move. We all make choices on a daily basis that may work for or against us. She is not running for public office or seeking a job at a Catholic school;so what is the harm? Twenty or even ten years ago I would have said, "it will die down". That is no longer true, access to information is readily available; in a matter of seconds this video will be accessible to just about everyone. I heard that she is a mother and I wonder how making this risque video will affect her child. Not in a good or positive way I am sure. I haven't decided to stop watching porn because of Love and Hip Hop but it hasn't dissuaded me from giving it up. Top 3 reasons I am giving up porn.
3. Most men are not hung like that. Professional pornography creates an unrealistic view of sex that I have grown tired of. Whether it is soft or hardcore I can do without the acrobatic positions and fake orgasms. Sure I could watch amateur porn if I want reality, but film is all about escape for me. Watching a dude that looks like my neighbor humping a woman that resembles the cashier at the supermarket, can get old.
2. Guilt. Many of the people, women in particular, that get involved in pornography are broken. I think about Laurence Fishburne's daughter Montana, and the little sister on Family Matters that disappeared after a few seasons. They are young vulnerable women who regretted screwing people on film and have suffered the repercussions.
1. Seems like I should be fucking instead of watching others do it. Using it as foreplay with another may work but I think using my imagination and creativity is more advantageous. Sure you can get pick up some ideas and new tricks to practice. I do believe you can fly on your own if you are with someone that really turns you on; the possibilities should be endless. Sex can get monotonous with a significant other but there other ways to spice things up. I love reading erotica and will continue to indulge in that. A book allows your imagination to fly and does not restrict your thoughts like film can.
You can never say never but for now I will refrain from pornography and let my own imagination do the work.