IT IS NEVER COOL TO KISS AND TELL

Before there was Air Jordan or King James, Dr. J ruled B-Ball.  Julius Erving was the smooth ultra-cool NBA small forward with a wicked dunking ability.  Now the elder statesman of the game is about to drop a tell all book. The following is an excerpt in reference to a sports journalist he conceived his 32 year old daughter with:

"She becomes someone who helps me unwind if I'm feeling high-strung or stressed. I can drive over and spend a relaxing evening that might even include oral sex," Erving writes. "I can only remember one time that we actually intercourse and that was because she had just gotten this new orthodontia to straighten her teeth. With wire and gleaming metal bristling in her mouth, oral sex was not an option." 

Now I see why former NBA player Doug Christie's wife had a no contact with female journalists in the locker room rule. Dr. J. was married at the time and I guess everyone involved chose to keep the affair and the baby under wraps.  Some athletes, celebrities, city bus drivers, accountants, etc..., have extramarital affairs. This is not new revelation.  I understand that sensationalism sells books, but I am pretty sure I would not want to know that this is how I was conceived.  Mom got knocked up because she couldn't give Daddy BJs anymore because she wanted straight teeth.  Should we really call this man Dr. J. if he can't keep details to himself?

Exposing your sexual partners on the media stage seems pretty juvenile. Actually exposing your sexual partners anywhere is usually not the way to proceed.  I am guilty of this I have spoken to girlfriends about a small dick man on occasion but I am not proud of it. Top reasons you should not kiss and tell or suck and tell......

• Do unto to others.....You would not want someone broadcasting to others that you fart every time you come, or you can't get it up at least once a week. Imagine your outrage if an ex decided to leak a sex tape. When you choose to share a sexually intimate moment with someone, unless you strive to be a porn star, you probably want to keep the gritty details between the two of you. 

• We are not in the 7th grade anymore.  There comes a time when we must put all our childish ways behind  us and act like grown folks. Being sexually mature is a goal we should all strive for.

• Basketball Wives.  The last thing black women needed was a show depicting them as gold digging, angry bitter baby mamas. I still find it hard to watch a reality show based on individuals who happened to screw someone famous.

• It sucks the intelligence out the room. I am not going to lie I read two of Karrine Steffan's, aka Superhead, tell all books.   I am pretty sure I destroyed some valuable brain cells after reading them.